Thoughts-to-pixels
Don’t Allow People and Circumstances Control Your Life...
Not always do we have control over the situations and circumstances, how people speak to us, how they react, how they treat us....in a nutshell, we do not have control over people's behavior.
But, we can train ourselves s to how we can respond to their behavior without spoiling our minds, ruining our well-planned days.
We can adapt to act and react emotionally & mentally in a way that we remain detached and unaffected.
If we let people and circumstances affect our moods and state of mind, we allow them to control our lives. This happens at home, school, college, work, at the mall, on the street, and everywhere else.
This happens to most of us, almost every day. Just think, how many minutes, and often hours, do you spend every day, dwelling on what this person said to me and that person did to me & lastly the most commonly heard statement....." Why always me".
If we take these incidents too personally, we get to experience the known fact that we become unfocused and inefficient @ work, @ home, and @ everywhere else.
Well....!!! Let us talk about real-life examples/incidents now...
Have you ever come across your feeling/saying: “Her/His acts/words made me so angry!”...?
The reactive word here is “made”. you can think about it...
When you say someone made (or makes) you angry, did they really? Did they hold you at gunpoint and say “be angry, or you will be shot!” Obviously, the answer is "NO" which you know well.
When it comes to emotions and outcomes in general, there are two sides: Cause and effect. Action = reaction. When you are on the “cause” side of the equation, you are in the driver’s seat. When you’re on the “effect” side, you become the victim. So, When you blame someone for your mood, thoughts, feeling, and emotions, you are unknowingly playing the role of a "victim". In a nutshell that means are allowing them to have control over your reaction.
When we take ownership of how we respond, we are taking complete responsibility for ourselves. Finally, our reactions talk about us...whether we can choose to respond in anger, or we can choose to respond with calm.
Here I am with few tips to better control your emotions &choose a better response:
1. Meditation - When you meditate at the beginning of the day, it sets a calm tone for the day.
2. Ditactch Your meaning to the Situations - You cannot control everything that happens in your life, but you can control the meaning you attach to those events.You are the one in charge of your emotions and how you react to them.Meaning connects to our larger life blueprint; it’s a way to either give up control of our lives or accept responsibility.
3. Channel Your Thoughts - Human emotions are incredibly powerful. Its time to invest that energy in any physical activity of your choice – go for a run or a walk,keep your mind calm and get back fresh.
4. Take Ownership - While we can’t control the triggers we encounter in our lives, we can control the meanings we extract from the events/incidents that occur. Hence we always need to take ownership by controlling our feelings and, more broadly, the lives that keep us in healthy mental and physical health.
Stay Healthy - Stay Fit....!!!
-Sushma C.
